One of the patterns I have noticed in the couples I have been working with lately is that they engage in 'relationship exits'. A relationship exit can be described as when one partner acts out their feelings instead of communicating about what is happening for them in a way that is respectful and promotes connection rather than disconnection. Any … [Read more...] about How to Close the Door on Your Relationship Exits
New research reported in the New York Times suggests that couples that engage in more touch report higher levels of relationship satisfaction. This might sound like common sense, but it is also a good reminder of what helps sustain successful relationships. Although it is hard to know what came first for these couples, the relationship … [Read more...] about The Power of Touch in Your Relationship
Time and time again in my clinical practice, I am coming across clients who report relationship breakdown because of problems in communication related to social media. These include Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and other social media websites. It seems that relationships sometimes begin and end via the 160 characters of a text message or tweet. … [Read more...] about 5 Tips to Avoid Relationship Breakdown on Social Media
Missed Part 1 of the top 10 relationship myths of all time? Read it here. Myth # 6: My childhood won't affect my relationship Some people believe that whatever kind of childhood they had, it has no bearing on the relationships they form in adulthood. Nothing could be further from the truth. It is impossible to not bring the influences of your … [Read more...] about The Top 10 Relationship Myths of All Time – Part 2
Do you believe any of these relationship myths? There are so many myths about relationships. Here are the top 10 I've come across in my work as a relationship therapist. Myth # 1: Relationships are easy Relationships are not easy! I am always amazed how people spend so much time, money and energy studying, training and applying themselves in … [Read more...] about The Top 10 Relationship Myths of All Time
In my last post I wrote about developing a relationship vision, either with your partner, or if you are single, developing a vision of the type of relationship you would like to create in the future. The benefits of this are that you can become clearer about what your personal goals are, and together you can form relationship goals that you create, … [Read more...] about Are Your Relationship Needs Aligned With Your Relationship Vision?
After a week of incredible dust storms in Sydney and the problems we all had with our vision (and breathing!), it got me thinking about the difficulties we sometimes have with our vision in relationships. In my relationship counselling work with singles and couples, I often hear statements such as, "I just fell into this relationship and found … [Read more...] about Can You See Your Relationship Vision?
I have been reflecting on my counselling work of the last week, when I worked with a number of couples that were in enormous emotional pain. It had me asking myself the question, what is it that happens in relationships that causes pain? One answer I come back to again and again is related to needs. It is normal for all of us to have needs in … [Read more...] about 4 Steps Towards Meeting Your Relationship Needs
It's hard not to read a paper, watch the news or look at your portfolio without feeling depressed about the current economy. I have been wondering how the current economic climate is impacting relationships. How are your relationships faring in this economic downturn? Of course, many individuals are suffering financially and it is inevitable … [Read more...] about How Your Relationship can Survive the Recession
Have you thought much about what makes some relationships work and others fail? I have been interested in this question, through working with individuals and couples with relationship issues over many years. I am always interested in what helps some couples have loving, respectful and successful relationships and others experience constant pain and … [Read more...] about Do You Turn Towards, Turn Away or Turn Against?