Thanks to Rick Hanson who, inspired me write about these tips that he spoke of at his 'Neurodharma of Love and Power' workshop in Sydney, May 2011. Assertiveness is one of those foundational communication skills required in any successful relationship. There is often a lot of talk about being assertive in your communication, but not many people … [Read more...] about 10 Steps Towards Mastering Assertiveness in Your Relationships
For those of you that might not know, I was a classical musician for close to 20 years before I became a full-time relationship counsellor. I was a trumpet player and performed opera and symphonic music with Australian and international orchestras and managed to see a lot of the world on musical tours. It was an exciting career, full of great … [Read more...] about What Classical Music and Successful Relationships Have in Common
With the Christmas holiday season in full swing and Christmas only days away, holiday relationship stress is often at an all-time high. This can often result in tension, conflict, the opening of old arguments and sometimes relationship breakdown. In this short survival guide, I will give you some tips that I think will help you reduce your … [Read more...] about Holiday Relationship Stress: A Survival Guide
The title of this post is a little provocative. You may be wondering 'why would I want to know how to ruin a relationship?' While it is helpful to know what does work in a relationship, it is just as helpful to know what does not work. When we know what doesn't work, we can avoid those behaviours and repeat what does work. After many years of … [Read more...] about 10 Surefire Ways to Ruin Your Relationship
As 'spring has sprung', well at least in the Southern Hemisphere, it has got me thinking about spring cleaning. For me, spring cleaning has always been an opportunity to go through all those old cupboards, drawers and wardrobes to clear out the junk, make new space and organise your contents. It's a great feeling when you do this and your life can … [Read more...] about Does Your Relationship Need a Spring Clean?
I am amazed at how many couples I now see that report to me that their relationship commenced online. It seems that what was once an unusual occurrence is now becoming the norm. Many people prefer the convenience of perusing online profiles rather than standing in noisy bars and clubs to meet potential partners. I have seen many couples that … [Read more...] about Online Dating: 5 Tips to Survive and Find the Mate You Want