The surprising science that will transform your sex life. We all know that we have sexual turn-ons and turn-offs. We might sometimes have trouble identifying what exactly they are in ourselves and others, but we know they’re there. With inspiration from sex educator and TEDx speaker Emily Nagoski, I’m inviting you to apply that turn-on/turn-off … [Read more...] about Kicking Your Sex Life into High Gear: The Dual Control Model and What It Means for Your Relationships
Sex and Relationships
Curious if an open relationship can work for you? An open relationship is not for everyone, however, there are plenty of couples who are either curious, interested or just plain ready to open their relationship.Open relationships are not for the faint of heart. And they certainly aren't a solution for a failing relationship. Simply put, … [Read more...] about The What, Why, and How of Open Relationships
Pornography used to be relegated to suspicious movie theatres, back rooms at video stores, and expensive cable channels in hotels. The Internet has made porn accessible to anyone with a computer or a smart phone, and porn use by teenagers is steadily rising. Besides setting up unrealistic expectations about sex, heavy porn use may correlate with … [Read more...] about Pornography Use is on the Rise in Young Australians
There's been a lot of talk lately about sexual harassment in the hospitality industry since an article in Fairfax newspapers exposed the dirty underbelly of this industry.So I recently spoke with Hannah Reilly on the triple j radio show The Hook Up about these disturbing behaviours that are impacting many young people working in … [Read more...] about Sexual Harassment in the Hospitality Industry: It’s Not Okay!
Polyamory is not widely understood or accepted in our current society, but it has a history at least as long as monogamy.A polyamorous relationship is not the same thing as an open relationship. Polyamorous people want to commit to multiple partner relationships, which may develop emotionally and include feelings of love.An open … [Read more...] about Polyamorous Relationships: Can They Really Work?
When it comes to talking about sexuality, desire and successful relationships, Esther Perel is an erudite and visionary therapist who shares many insights and fascinating perceptions about modern love and relationships. Her popular TED Talk has been viewed close to 3 million times.She recently appeared on Lewis Howe's podcast, The School of … [Read more...] about Sexual Desire and Successful Relationships with Esther Perel [VIDEO]
If you have problems talking about sex with your partner, you're not alone. Lots of couples struggle to talk openly and honestly about their sex life.It's also important to learn how to communicate during sex. The better you can communicate your sexual needs, the better your chance of having them met.So here's a simple infographic that … [Read more...] about 3 Strategies to Better Communicate During Sex
Monogamy has changed in the 21st Century and couples need to define what monogamy means for them. If you've been following the news lately, you've likely heard the story that the website Ashley Madison was recently hacked. Ashley Madison is a website where people go when they want to have an affair or to organise a secret liaison. Their slogan is … [Read more...] about The New Monogamy: How To Redefine Your Relationship After Infidelity
A TED Talk by Sex Therapist Esther Perel I have been a huge fan of Esther Perel ever since her groundbreaking book published in 2007 called Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence.She wowed audiences with her 2013 TEDSalon talk in New York called The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship, so it's no surprise she was invited … [Read more...] about Rethinking Infidelity…A Talk For Anyone Who Has Ever Loved
I was interviewed recently for an interesting article that has appeared in this month's edition of Australian Men's Health magazine.The author, Jesse Fink, is a very talented Australian writer who wanted to know my thoughts on how porn impacts men and their ability to have healthy sex lives and relationships and whether porn has the ability to … [Read more...] about The Porn Ultimatum: Is It Time To Quit Porn?