More than ever, relationships are being treated as disposable. Cutting off a relationship, especially a romantic one, is not easy for most people. There are all sorts of ways to put it off or cloud the waters, but these methods make things worse for the dumpee, and, in the long run, the dumper.The less you invest in a relationship, emotionally … [Read more...] about 3 Painful Ways to End a Relationship You’ll Want to Avoid
Conflict is a sign your relationship needs to grow. Conflict is not inherently bad (or good), and neither is anger. Conflict is a necessary part of any relationship, and can move a relationship out of a stagnant state. It’s healthy when it helps people see their own strengths and weaknesses, and all couples experience conflict at one time or … [Read more...] about 7 Ways to Reduce Conflict in Your Relationship
Smartphones affect relationships, period. Their convenience and technology may bring a couple together initially, but they can ruin the relationship later, and PPhubbing is a prime example. Phubbing is phone snubbing, ignoring the person in front of you to use your smartphone. “Pphubbing” is phubbing your partner, and it could potentially destroy … [Read more...] about PPhubbing: How This New Trend Can Ruin Your Relationship
Thinking of getting back with an ex? Ask yourself these questions first... After a breakup, even a bad one, it’s impossible not to think about your ex. It’s even hard not to see their face, if you use any kind of social media, live in the same neighbourhood, or, worse yet, work in the same building.But if after some time you find yourself … [Read more...] about 7 Questions to Ask Before Getting Back with an Ex
Polyamory is not widely understood or accepted in our current society, but it has a history at least as long as monogamy.A polyamorous relationship is not the same thing as an open relationship. Polyamorous people want to commit to multiple partner relationships, which may develop emotionally and include feelings of love.An open … [Read more...] about Polyamorous Relationships: Can They Really Work?
Listen to Clinton Power + Associates couples therapist Lidia Smirnov talk about the Gottman Approach to Couples TherapyTranscript:Clinton: Hello it's Clinton Power here, from Clinton Power and Associates, and it's my great pleasure today to be speaking with one of my very own associates, Lidia Smirnov. Hello Lidia, how are … [Read more...] about The Gottman Approach to Couples Therapy: How Does it Help Couples?
Is it time to devote some attention to your relationship these holidays? The holidays are often a stressful time for people, but it’s easy to forget this once they arrive. If you’re in a relationship, you may find yourself getting frustrated with your partner for no particular reason, or you notice you’re fighting more than usual. These feelings … [Read more...] about How to Use the Holidays to Improve Your Relationship
If you've been in a relationship, you probably know that relationships are hard. But did you know that what makes relationships hard has more to do with primitive reasons and your brain than how compatible you are?I'm a huge fan of the work of Stan Tatkin, not only because I've trained in his PACT approach to couples therapy, but because I use … [Read more...] about Relationships Are Hard, But Why? A TEDx Talk by Stan Tatkin
In the early part of your relationship, it's easy to assume the person you love has the same values and ideals as you. This stage of a relationship is often called the honeymoon stage, and for good reason. It's a time when you see your partner through rose-tinted glasses. You unconsciously ignore their faults, flaws, and annoying … [Read more...] about Are You Asking These Important Questions Before Getting Married?
I pinched myself at the start of this year when I realised I've been working with singles and couples with relationship issues for over 14 years. How time flies.When I started my studies in counselling and psychotherapy at the start of the new century, I really didn't have any specific ideas about what kinds of clients I wanted to work with. … [Read more...] about Could Your Relationship Benefit From a Mindset Shift?