Get your relationship off to a strong start in the new year!
As we all turn towards the start of a new year and think about resolutions, why not have resolutions for your relationship?
Write these down or print them out and remind yourself throughout the year of the importance of these resolutions.
1. I will protect the safety and security of my relationship at all times
For your relationship to be successful, it’s essential that you protect the safety and security of your relationship at all times.
Safety and security are at the heart of every successful relationship; so if you want yours to last, make this an imperative.
2. I will make decisions that are for the good of myself AND my partner
Make sure that when you make decisions that have the ability to impact your relationship or your partner, you need to consult with your better half.
Make sure your decisions are good decisions for yourself AND your partner. This is the basis of true mutuality and the ingredients for a successful relationship.
3. I will never threaten to end my relationship
No matter how difficult things get, don’t ever threaten to leave your partner.
Threatening to end your relationship also threatens the safety and security of your relationship (see resolution #1), and benefits no one.
4. I will make my partner the go-to person for all matters
Make it your intention to always go to your partner first before you go to anyone else.
Your partner needs to know they are the go-to person for all matters of importance in your relationship.
5. I will always greet my partner with enthusiasm
Set yourself a goal to always greet your partner with good cheer and enthusiasm when you reconnect after time apart.
It also helps to make it a ritual to say goodbye to each other by connecting with a hug and a kiss.
6. I will protect my partner in public and private
Your partner needs to know you will protect them at all times in public and private.
Don’t talk with others about problems in your relationship. Instead, have the respect to address your issues directly with your partner.
7. I will put my partner to bed each night
Going to bed at the same time and waking at the same time is ideal, but not always realistic for some couples.
The next best thing is to put your partner to bed each night by going into the bedroom, sitting on the edge of the bed and connecting for a few minutes before you leave them to go to sleep.
This is a simple and powerful strategy for improving your relationship.
8. I will appreciate my partner frequently
Make it a habit to show your appreciation for your partner frequently.
You can do this verbally by telling them what you appreciate, or you can do it non-verbally through the use of gestures of affection and gazing on your partner.
9. I will attempt to repair my relationship after conflict as soon as possible
When you have a rupture in your relationship due to a disagreement, argument or some other conflict, don’t leave it too long to start your repair conversation.
The quicker you can start to repair your relationship, the better you will both feel in the long run.
10. I will learn how to influence my partner without the use of fear or threat
You need to have an owner’s manual on your partner to create a successful relationship.
This means learning how to master the ways of seduction, influence and persuasion without using fear or threats.
This is a delicate and important art that will increase your emotional and sexual intimacy in your relationship.
If you feel you’re struggling with relationship issues contact Clinton Power + Associates on 0412 241 410 or book online for a FREE 15-minute phone consultation with one of our experienced and qualified relationship counsellors to hear how we can help you.
Clinton Power is a relationship counsellor and Gestalt therapist with over a decade of experience helping individuals and couples move out of relationship pain and create great relationships. Get Clinton’s FREE report: 10 Tips for Moving Out of Relationship Pain, by clicking the button below.
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