If you have problems talking about sex with your partner, you’re not alone. Lots of couples struggle to talk openly and honestly about their sex life.
It’s also important to learn how to communicate during sex. The better you can communicate your sexual needs, the better your chance of having them met.
So here’s a simple infographic that describes three strategies to better communicate during sex.
The images represent heterosexual couples but these strategies also apply to same-sex couples.
The three strategies to communicate better during sex are:
- Start with something positive. This creates openness so your partner can hear you. Acknowledge what you like a lot and ask for more of that.
- Think about your intention. If there’s something holding you back from being open and responsive, include that in your invitation to talk. This is very helpful if you need to clear something up or repair a breach of trust.
- Communicate non-verbally too. Non-verbal communication is very powerful because you can show your partner what you want without words.
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Since 2003, Clinton Power has helped thousands of couples and individuals as a counsellor and psychotherapist in private practice in Sydney and online in Australia. Clinton regularly comments in the media on issues of relationships and has appeared on Channel 7, The Sydney Morning Herald, and ABC Radio. Clinton’s eBook, 31 Days to Build a Better Relationship is available for Kindle on Amazon. Click here to take Clinton’s relationship checkup quiz to find out how well you know your partner.