As ‘spring has sprung’, well at least in the Southern Hemisphere, it has got me thinking about spring cleaning. For me, spring cleaning has always been an opportunity to go through all those old cupboards, drawers and wardrobes to clear out the junk, make new space and organise your contents. It’s a great feeling when […]
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I am amazed at how many couples I now see that report to me that their relationship commenced online. It seems that what was once an unusual occurrence is now becoming the norm. Many people prefer the convenience of perusing online profiles rather than standing in noisy bars and clubs to meet potential partners. I
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More and more we are hearing in the media about relationship problems that involve Facebook. In particular, it seems it is the end of a relationship where interactions can deteriorate on Facebook. In my clinical practice, I am hearing about behaviours such as jealousy, spying, cyber-stalking, public shaming, open hostility and conflict being displayed on
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One of the patterns I have noticed in the couples I have been working with lately is that they engage in ‘relationship exits’. A relationship exit can be described as when one partner acts out their feelings instead of communicating about what is happening for them in a way that is respectful and promotes connection
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Time and time again in my clinical practice, I am coming across clients who report relationship breakdown because of problems in communication related to social media. These include Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and other social media websites. It seems that relationships sometimes begin and end via the 160 characters of a text message or tweet. Jealousy,
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In my last post I wrote about developing a relationship vision, either with your partner, or if you are single, developing a vision of the type of relationship you would like to create in the future. The benefits of this are that you can become clearer about what your personal goals are, and together you
Are Your Relationship Needs Aligned With Your Relationship Vision? Read Post »
After a week of incredible dust storms in Sydney and the problems we all had with our vision (and breathing!), it got me thinking about the difficulties we sometimes have with our vision in relationships. In my relationship counselling work with singles and couples, I often hear statements such as, “I just fell into this
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I have been reflecting on my counselling work of the last week, when I worked with a number of couples that were in enormous emotional pain. It had me asking myself the question, what is it that happens in relationships that causes pain? One answer I come back to again and again is related to needs. It is normal for all of us to have needs in relationships and one of the joys of being in relationship with another person is that we can take pleasure in the experience of having those needs met. Unfortunately, it doesn’t always happen in the way that we want…
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