The practice of mindfulness can profoundly improve your relationships.
The dynamics of today’s world forces people to focus on themselves and make sure that their personal welfare is taken care of. It’s every man for himself, is what many always say.
While there’s nothing wrong in putting yourself first, this doesn’t really work as a long-term strategy, because humans are social creatures and we all have a need to be connected. In fact, our brains are wired to be connected with others.
Second, unless you live like a hermit, relationships are ever-present things and these relationships usually have a direct impact on your satisfaction with (and even purpose in) life. Therefore, it’s imperative for you to develop self-awareness and, at the same time, also direct focus away from yourself and understand the emotions, thoughts and sensations present around you.
Enter mindfulness – a wonderful way to cultivate the ability to be present with yourself and others in the moment, without judgment. Mindfulness can also help you develop a deeper level of gratitude, which has all sorts of wonderful mental health benefits.
This combination of higher self-awareness and intentional acceptance and non-judgmental focus of external factors is what mindfulness practice is all about; this practice has the ability to improve one’s well-being and equip one with the sensitivity required in developing stronger interpersonal relationships.
Many nowadays are practising mindfulness purely for the enhancement of the quality of life, which is strongly linked to the proper preservation of the relationships that truly matter to them.
But what really is the connection between mindfulness and relationships? How does one truly affect the other?
Here are 5 beautiful benefits of mindfulness in your relationships:
- Mindfulness diminishes your stress. The practice of mindfulness gives you the necessary skills to act appropriately in challenging situations. Instead of having destructive outbursts that automatically strain relationships, mindfulness presents a calm and compassionate approach to stressful events, which never fails to create better outcomes.
- Mindfulness helps you deals with emotional pain from past relationships. Oftentimes, long after one relationship had concluded, people still harbour feelings of resentment, fear and hurt that they carry over to their present relationship. Mindfulness can control these emotions and turn them into logical internal dialogues so one can act in the best interest of your new partner.
- Mindful relationships have more joy. The practice of mindfulness helps you develop a greater consideration toward others. When you think about the interest of the person you love, and their emotions, it automatically becomes so much easier to make the necessary adjustments in your own behaviour to ensure their happiness and enjoyment.
- Mindfulness develops a well-rounded set of values. Mindfulness assists you in developer great equanimity – the ability to maintain calmness and composure, especially in a difficult situation – which can be a source of strength for all the people around you. This creates feelings of comfort and security, which are two critical components of good relationships.
- Mindfulness generates good reactions from others. It’s hard for people to not reciprocate the great amount of consideration given them, and when mindfulness is displayed, “returning the good favour” becomes a natural thing instead of a burden.
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Since 2003, Clinton Power has helped thousands of couples and individuals as a counsellor and psychotherapist in private practice in Sydney and online in Australia. Clinton regularly comments in the media on issues of relationships and has appeared on Channel 7, The Sydney Morning Herald, and ABC Radio. Clinton’s eBook, 31 Days to Build a Better Relationship is available through his website or Amazon. Click here to take Clinton’s relationship checkup quiz to find out how well you know your partner.