If you’ve been in a relationship, you probably know that relationships are hard. But did you know that what makes relationships hard has more to do with primitive reasons and your brain than how compatible you are? I’m a huge fan of the work of Stan Tatkin, not only because I’ve trained in his PACT approach to
Relationships Are Hard, But Why? A TEDx Talk by Stan Tatkin Read Post »
New research shows 25-30% of couples who attend relationship counselling fail. A new study by the Australian Institute of Family Studies, as reported in the Sydney Morning Herald, has shown relationship counselling fails for 25-30% of couples. The research also showed that those couples experiencing the most difficulty showed the least amount of improvement after
Study: Relationship Counselling Fails More Than One in Four Couples Read Post »
When your relationship works it’s amazing. Everything feels easier in life and you’re full of energy and excitement. Life is joy and pleasure and nothing can knock you down. But when your relationship isn’t at its best, it can affect almost every area of your life. Unresolved relationship issues can cause real-life struggles. You may
7 Signs You May Need to See a Couple Therapist Read Post »
In his audiobook, Your Brain On Love: The Neurobiology of Healthy Relationships, researcher and couples therapist Stan Tatkin answers the question: Why be coupled anyway? Key takeaways In this audiobook, Tatkin talks about: what he’s learned from his leading-edge work in research, the neurobiology of healthy relationships, and couples therapy prompts listeners to “Improve your
Your Brain on Love: The Neurobiology of Healthy Relationships – Review Read Post »
When I first started providing couples therapy soon after graduation from my counselling studies, I really had little experience of how to help couples that were coming to see me. It was truly a baptism by fire because as I started to sit with couple after couple in the first year of my new career,
10 Things I’ve Learned About Love as a Couples Therapist Read Post »
Could your relationship benefit from a couples retreat? When you hear “couples retreat”, you might think of the 2009 film with Vince Vaughn. A couple, juggling their busy lives while raising two children, decide to take on a vacation getaway package combined with couples counselling, to realise what a great thing they have going. The
Couples Retreat: The Value of Focusing on Your Relationship Read Post »
Dr Sue Johnson is a leader in the field of relationships and couple therapy and is the primary founder of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, which is used as an approach to working with couples throughout the world. She calls herself an attachment theorist and researcher and she helps people learn how to have relationships that
Have you ever wondered what happens in couples counselling? I’ve often noticed people are curious about what happens behind the closed doors of a relationship counselling office or during online relationship counselling. Perhaps there’s the intrigue about what relationship issues and relationship concerns people are divulging to me in their relationship counselling sessions. And I think other couples
10 Things to Expect in Couple Counselling Read Post »
I was recently interviewed by Ben Starr of The Conversation Arena for their popular podcast of the same name. Ben wanted me to speak specifically about relationships and relationship counselling. In this interview, he asks me: Why do relationships cause so much pain? How much impact do your parents have on your overall view of
