There is a moment at the beginning of something new – like the first day of a new year – when we take in a breath of air, pause quietly within and wonder about the ways we may change or be changed. In a way, it’s a moment in which we hover between what we were and who we will be. This is especially more powerful when the newness in a … [Read more...] about Are Your New Year’s Relationship Resolutions SMART?
I recently volunteered for a charity day called Help-Portrait, which I found to be a surprisingly moving experience. This got me thinking about the power of giving and receiving love in our relationships- and the difficulties many people have with this. This post explores the joys and challenges of giving and receiving love in your intimate … [Read more...] about The Power of Giving and Receiving Love
In this short video, I describe what I see are the 3 most common couple communication problems that I see in my work with couples. I also give you 3 tips to avoid these communication issues in your relationship.Here's a written summary of the most common couple communication problems: 1. Couples that don't reflect on the message they are … [Read more...] about 3 Most Common Couple Communication Problems [Video]
Single people all over the world are looking for love, yet so many singles can't seem to find a mate. If you're single, you may be familiar with the frustrations that often accompany dating and online dating that can lead to distress, despair and disillusionment.Many of my single clients know this struggle well and want to know how they can … [Read more...] about The Single Experience: What’s Missing in Your Search for Love?
Thanks to Rick Hanson who, inspired me write about these tips that he spoke of at his 'Neurodharma of Love and Power' workshop in Sydney, May 2011.Assertiveness is one of those foundational communication skills required in any successful relationship. There is often a lot of talk about being assertive in your communication, but not many people … [Read more...] about 10 Steps Towards Mastering Assertiveness in Your Relationships
For those of you that might not know, I was a classical musician for close to 20 years before I became a full-time relationship counsellor. I was a trumpet player and performed opera and symphonic music with Australian and international orchestras and managed to see a lot of the world on musical tours.It was an exciting career, full of great … [Read more...] about What Classical Music and Successful Relationships Have in Common
With the Christmas holiday season in full swing and Christmas only days away, holiday relationship stress is often at an all-time high. This can often result in tension, conflict, the opening of old arguments and sometimes relationship breakdown. In this short survival guide, I will give you some tips that I think will help you reduce your … [Read more...] about Holiday Relationship Stress: A Survival Guide
The title of this post is a little provocative. You may be wondering 'why would I want to know how to ruin a relationship?' While it is helpful to know what does work in a relationship, it is just as helpful to know what does not work. When we know what doesn't work, we can avoid those behaviours and repeat what does work.After many years of … [Read more...] about 10 Surefire Ways to Ruin Your Relationship
After a week of incredible dust storms in Sydney and the problems we all had with our vision (and breathing!), it got me thinking about the difficulties we sometimes have with our vision in relationships.In my relationship counselling work with singles and couples, I often hear statements such as, "I just fell into this relationship and found … [Read more...] about Can You See Your Relationship Vision?
It's hard not to read a paper, watch the news or look at your portfolio without feeling depressed about the current economy. I have been wondering how the current economic climate is impacting relationships.How are your relationships faring in this economic downturn? Of course, many individuals are suffering financially and it is inevitable … [Read more...] about How Your Relationship can Survive the Recession