In this short video, I describe what I see are the 3 most common couple communication problems that I see in my work with couples. I also give you 3 tips to avoid these communication issues in your relationship. Here's a written summary of the most common couple communication problems: 1. Couples that don't reflect on the message they are … [Read more...] about 3 Most Common Couple Communication Problems [Video]
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The Single Experience: What’s Missing in Your Search for Love?
Single people all over the world are looking for love, yet so many singles can't seem to find a mate. If you're single, you may be familiar with the frustrations that often accompany dating and online dating that can lead to distress, despair and disillusionment. Many of my single clients know this struggle well and want to know how they can … [Read more...] about The Single Experience: What’s Missing in Your Search for Love?
10 Steps Towards Mastering Assertiveness in Your Relationships
In this post, I flesh out all the components of assertiveness so that you can communicate clearly and effectively. Assertiveness is one of those foundational communication skills required in any successful relationship. There's often a lot of talk about being assertive in your communication, but not many people truly understand the nuances of … [Read more...] about 10 Steps Towards Mastering Assertiveness in Your Relationships
What Classical Music and Successful Relationships Have in Common
Classical music and relationships have a lot in common. Believe it or not, I was a classical musician for close to 20 years before I became a full-time relationship counsellor. I was a trumpet player and performed opera and symphonic music with Australian and international orchestras and managed to see a lot of the world on musical … [Read more...] about What Classical Music and Successful Relationships Have in Common
5 Relationship Pitfalls When Communicating Via Text
Advances in technology in the last decade, and particularly SMS, have made communication via technology  faster and easier than ever. It's also brought pitfalls to the way we communicate in our relationships. In this article I reveal the 5 worst relationship pitfalls you can make when communicating via text. SMS, which is short for … [Read more...] about 5 Relationship Pitfalls When Communicating Via Text
Holiday Relationship Stress: A Survival Guide
With the Christmas holiday season in full swing and Christmas only days away, holiday relationship stress is often at an all-time high. This can often result in tension, conflict, the opening of old arguments and sometimes relationship breakdown. In this short survival guide, I will give you some tips that I think will help you reduce your … [Read more...] about Holiday Relationship Stress: A Survival Guide
10 Surefire Ways to Ruin Your Relationship
The title of this post is a little provocative. You may be wondering 'why would I want to know how to ruin a relationship?' While it is helpful to know what does work in a relationship, it is just as helpful to know what does not work. When we know what doesn't work, we can avoid those behaviours and repeat what does work. After many years of … [Read more...] about 10 Surefire Ways to Ruin Your Relationship
The Power of Touch in Your Relationship
New research reported in the New York Times suggests that couples that engage in more touch report higher levels of relationship satisfaction. This might sound like common sense, but it is also a good reminder of what helps sustain successful relationships. Although it is hard to know what came first for these couples, the relationship … [Read more...] about The Power of Touch in Your Relationship
The Top 10 Relationship Myths of All Time – Part 2
Missed Part 1 of the top 10 relationship myths of all time? Read it here. Myth # 6: My childhood won't affect my relationship Some people believe that whatever kind of childhood they had, it has no bearing on the relationships they form in adulthood. Nothing could be further from the truth. It is impossible to not bring the influences of your … [Read more...] about The Top 10 Relationship Myths of All Time – Part 2
The Top 10 Relationship Myths of All Time
Do you believe any of these relationship myths? There are so many myths about relationships. Here are the top 10 I've come across in my work as a relationship therapist. Myth # 1: Relationships are easy Relationships are not easy! I am always amazed how people spend so much time, money and energy studying, training and applying themselves in … [Read more...] about The Top 10 Relationship Myths of All Time