One of the main issues that all couples struggle with is related to money. Money issues are particularly challenging when couples have differing levels of income and asset pools when they enter into a relationship. I recently spoke with Sydney solicitor Bhavesh Mistry about binding financial agreements and how they can help couples … [Read more...] about Couple Money Problems: Binding Financial Agreements [Video]
The title of this post is a little 'tongue in cheek', but when I heard recently that Madonna said "there's no such thing as perfect love", I thought it was a good opportunity to address some of the myths that pervade our society about love and relationships. Madonna is probably someone who has considerable experience in the area of love … [Read more...] about Breaking News: Madonna Says “There’s No Such Thing as Perfect Love”
Learn how your brain is wired for love in this compelling book from Stan Tatkin PsyD. In his book Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain Attachment Style Can Help You Diffuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship, American author and psychotherapist Stan Tatkin speaks about how a partner's attachment style can affect the way a … [Read more...] about Wired for Love Relationships: Are You an Island, Wave, or Anchor?
If you feel that something is not quite right in your relationship, where you're constantly walking on egg shells, fearful of being chastised for not meeting your partner's expectations and on the receiving end of ongoing criticism and abuse, it's possible you may be in relationship with a narcissist. Narcissism is a term that refers to a … [Read more...] about 7 Signs You’re Sharing Your Bed with a Narcissist
There is a moment at the beginning of something new – like the first day of a new year – when we take in a breath of air, pause quietly within and wonder about the ways we may change or be changed. In a way, it’s a moment in which we hover between what we were and who we will be. This is especially more powerful when the newness in a … [Read more...] about Are Your New Year’s Relationship Resolutions SMART?
I recently volunteered for a charity day called Help-Portrait, which I found to be a surprisingly moving experience. This got me thinking about the power of giving and receiving love in our relationships- and the difficulties many people have with this. This post explores the joys and challenges of giving and receiving love in your intimate … [Read more...] about The Power of Giving and Receiving Love
In this short video, I describe what I see are the 3 most common couple communication problems that I see in my work with couples. I also give you 3 tips to avoid these communication issues in your relationship. Here's a written summary of the most common couple communication problems: 1. Couples that don't reflect on the message they are … [Read more...] about 3 Most Common Couple Communication Problems [Video]
Single people all over the world are looking for love, yet so many singles can't seem to find a mate. If you're single, you may be familiar with the frustrations that often accompany dating and online dating that can lead to distress, despair and disillusionment. Many of my single clients know this struggle well and want to know how they can … [Read more...] about The Single Experience: What’s Missing in Your Search for Love?
Thanks to Rick Hanson who, inspired me write about these tips that he spoke of at his 'Neurodharma of Love and Power' workshop in Sydney, May 2011. Assertiveness is one of those foundational communication skills required in any successful relationship. There is often a lot of talk about being assertive in your communication, but not many people … [Read more...] about 10 Steps Towards Mastering Assertiveness in Your Relationships
For those of you that might not know, I was a classical musician for close to 20 years before I became a full-time relationship counsellor. I was a trumpet player and performed opera and symphonic music with Australian and international orchestras and managed to see a lot of the world on musical tours. It was an exciting career, full of great … [Read more...] about What Classical Music and Successful Relationships Have in Common