To celebrate the release of my new Kindle eBook on Amazon, I'm sharing a tip a day from each chapter. If you'd like to get your own copy of my eBook, you can get in on Amazon here for immediate download to your Kindle, or the Kindle app for iPhone and iPad, Android, or for your desktop PC or Mac. Check out the visual tips below to get some … [Read more...] about Excerpts from ’31 Days to Build a Better Relationship’: Part 1
I'm very excited to announce that I've just launched my new eBook called 31 Days to Build a Better Relationship on Amazon! This eBook has been the culmination of over a decade of working with a wide range of relationship issues, and my perpetual interest in what makes a great relationship. I wanted to write a book where the reader could read a … [Read more...] about FREE Giveaway: Get one of 100 Copies of ’31 Days to Build a Better Relationship’!
This guest post is by Jacqueline Stone of Jacqueline Stone & Associates. When a client tells me about an upsetting time with their partner, a funny thing can happen. At first they are clearly distressed as they describe the arguments they have had over the past week. They feel furious and hurt. They tell me of the verbal attacks they … [Read more...] about How to Improve Your Relationship by Exposing Stress
Relationships don’t come with manuals and the training that most of us get is from those around us as we are growing up. Rightly or wrongly we learn our coping strategies and how to get what we want from our relationships by absorbing the behaviour of those closest to us in our formative years, and more often than not without even being conscious … [Read more...] about The 5 Biggest Losing Strategies Used by Couples
Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention on the present. It also involves acceptance, meaning that we pay attention to our thoughts and feelings without judging them. When we practice mindfulness, our thoughts tune into what we’re sensing in the present moment rather than rehashing the past or imagining the future How do you use … [Read more...] about Mindfulness for Couples: How to Cultivate Compassion, Insight and Empathy for Those You Love
I've read so many self-help books on relationships over the years that I have found inspirational. So I thought it was about time I collated my top 10 list. I just love it when I read a book on relationships that really challenges my thinking about relationships and more importantly, helps me improve my own relationship and the relationships of … [Read more...] about The Top 10 Relationship Self-Help Books
One of the questions I frequently get asked by couples that are about to get married is does pre-marriage counselling really work? Getting married can be a wonderful experience, and it can also be a very stressful event for those involved. Sometimes this stress raises family issues and couple issues that need to be addressed as soon as … [Read more...] about Pre-Marriage Counselling: Does it Really Work?
I had the pleasure of speaking with my friend and colleague John Aiken, who is a Sydney clinical psychologist. John was recently the co-host of a hit ABC TV reality show called Making Couples Happy. He is also the co-author of the book Making Couples Happy: How science can help get relationships back on track. I go behind the scenes of the TV … [Read more...] about Making Couples Happy: An Interview with Clinical Psychologist and Author John Aiken
One of the most common issues I hear from the couples I work with in long-term relationships, is loss of passion or sexual desire. Esther Perel, author of the book Mating in Captivity is a world-renowed expert on issues of sexuality and sexual desire in couples. Here's a great video of her summarising her ideas about what kills sexual desire … [Read more...] about What’s the Secret to Desire in Long-Term Relationships?
This is one of my favourite relationship quotes. If you can't see the image above, it says "You Can be RIGHT or you can be in RELATIONSHIP". I'm not sure who said it or where it comes from, but I like it because it really captures the dilemma that many couples find themselves in. And this doesn't just apply to couple communication. It's also … [Read more...] about Couple Conflict: How to Resolve Recurring Arguments and Create Win-Win Outcomes