Could your relationship benefit from a couples retreat? When you hear “couples retreat”, you might think of the 2009 film with Vince Vaughn. A couple, juggling their busy lives while raising two children, decide to take on a vacation getaway package combined with couples counselling, to realise what a great thing they have going. The cynic in … [Read more...] about Couples Retreat: The Value of Focusing on Your Relationship
Do some famous couples know something about relationships we don't? Famous couples have it going on. They’re beautiful, they’re powerful, and they’re important. We know about their dramas as if we are living their lives: the pangs, the mess, the cheating, and the almost-divorces. We are constantly “in like” with these tabloid fixtures because … [Read more...] about Famous Couples: What Are Their Secrets to Relationship Longevity?
In this post, I flesh out all the components of assertiveness so that you can communicate clearly and effectively. Assertiveness is one of those foundational communication skills required in any successful relationship. There's often a lot of talk about being assertive in your communication, but not many people truly understand the nuances of … [Read more...] about 10 Steps Towards Mastering Assertiveness in Your Relationships
With the Christmas holiday season in full swing and Christmas only days away, holiday relationship stress is often at an all-time high. This can often result in tension, conflict, the opening of old arguments and sometimes relationship breakdown. In this short survival guide, I will give you some tips that I think will help you reduce your … [Read more...] about Holiday Relationship Stress: A Survival Guide
The title of this post is a little provocative. You may be wondering 'why would I want to know how to ruin a relationship?' While it is helpful to know what does work in a relationship, it is just as helpful to know what does not work. When we know what doesn't work, we can avoid those behaviours and repeat what does work. After many years of … [Read more...] about 10 Surefire Ways to Ruin Your Relationship
As 'spring has sprung', well at least in the Southern Hemisphere, it has got me thinking about spring cleaning. For me, spring cleaning has always been an opportunity to go through all those old cupboards, drawers and wardrobes to clear out the junk, make new space and organise your contents. It's a great feeling when you do this and your life can … [Read more...] about Does Your Relationship Need a Spring Clean?
I am amazed at how many couples I now see that report to me that their relationship commenced online. It seems that what was once an unusual occurrence is now becoming the norm. Many people prefer the convenience of perusing online profiles rather than standing in noisy bars and clubs to meet potential partners. I have seen many couples that … [Read more...] about Online Dating: 5 Tips to Survive and Find the Mate You Want
More and more we are hearing in the media about relationship problems that involve Facebook. In particular, it seems it is the end of a relationship where interactions can deteriorate on Facebook. In my clinical practice I am hearing about behaviours such as jealousy, spying, cyber-stalking, public shaming, open hostility and conflict being … [Read more...] about How to Navigate the End of a Relationship on Facebook
New research reported in the New York Times suggests that couples that engage in more touch report higher levels of relationship satisfaction. This might sound like common sense, but it is also a good reminder of what helps sustain successful relationships. Although it is hard to know what came first for these couples, the relationship … [Read more...] about The Power of Touch in Your Relationship
Missed Part 1 of the top 10 relationship myths of all time? Read it here. Myth # 6: My childhood won't affect my relationship Some people believe that whatever kind of childhood they had, it has no bearing on the relationships they form in adulthood. Nothing could be further from the truth. It is impossible to not bring the influences of your … [Read more...] about The Top 10 Relationship Myths of All Time – Part 2