In this short video, I describe what I see are the 3 most common couple communication problems that I see in my work with couples. I also give you 3 tips to avoid these communication issues in your relationship. Here's a written summary of the most common couple communication problems: 1. Couples that don't reflect on the message they are … [Read more...] about 3 Most Common Couple Communication Problems [Video]
Single people all over the world are looking for love, yet so many singles can't seem to find a mate. If you're single, you may be familiar with the frustrations that often accompany dating and online dating that can lead to distress, despair and disillusionment. Many of my single clients know this struggle well and want to know how they can … [Read more...] about The Single Experience: What’s Missing in Your Search for Love?
Technology in our lives is exponentially growing in the amount of time we use it and what parts of our lives are helped by it. Technology has made our lives easier, helped us be more effective in our work and allowed us to connect with friends, family and colleagues across the world. However, often with rapid change, there is a cost. And far too … [Read more...] about The Disturbing Effects of Technology on Your Relationships
Medibank Private, one of the largest health funds in Australia, is the first private health fund to offer counselling rebates to eligible members. This is an exciting step forward for the profession of counselling and psychotherapy, and we hope other Australian health funds will be following soon. It's also an important recognition that … [Read more...] about Medibank Private Delivers Health Fund Rebates for Counselling
Thanks to Rick Hanson who, inspired me write about these tips that he spoke of at his 'Neurodharma of Love and Power' workshop in Sydney, May 2011. Assertiveness is one of those foundational communication skills required in any successful relationship. There is often a lot of talk about being assertive in your communication, but not many people … [Read more...] about 10 Steps Towards Mastering Assertiveness in Your Relationships
For those of you that might not know, I was a classical musician for close to 20 years before I became a full-time relationship counsellor. I was a trumpet player and performed opera and symphonic music with Australian and international orchestras and managed to see a lot of the world on musical tours. It was an exciting career, full of great … [Read more...] about What Classical Music and Successful Relationships Have in Common
Advances in technology in the last decade, and particularly SMS, have made communication via technology faster and easier than ever. It has also brought pitfalls to the way we communicate in our relationships. In this article I reveal the 5 worst relationship pitfalls you can make when communicating via SMS. SMS, which is short for … [Read more...] about The 5 Worst Relationship Pitfalls When Communicating via SMS
With the Christmas holiday season in full swing and Christmas only days away, holiday relationship stress is often at an all-time high. This can often result in tension, conflict, the opening of old arguments and sometimes relationship breakdown. In this short survival guide, I will give you some tips that I think will help you reduce your … [Read more...] about Holiday Relationship Stress: A Survival Guide
The title of this post is a little provocative. You may be wondering 'why would I want to know how to ruin a relationship?' While it is helpful to know what does work in a relationship, it is just as helpful to know what does not work. When we know what doesn't work, we can avoid those behaviours and repeat what does work. After many years of … [Read more...] about 10 Surefire Ways to Ruin Your Relationship
As 'spring has sprung', well at least in the Southern Hemisphere, it has got me thinking about spring cleaning. For me, spring cleaning has always been an opportunity to go through all those old cupboards, drawers and wardrobes to clear out the junk, make new space and organise your contents. It's a great feeling when you do this and your life can … [Read more...] about Does Your Relationship Need a Spring Clean?