Guest post by Amanda WoolveridgeI often hear the word “intimacy” in my therapy room when talking to couples about their relationship. But what does it mean and how do we achieve it and maintain it in our significant relationships?It isn’t just the domain of our romantic relationships, it goes to the heart of our closest and most endearing … [Read more...] about Intimacy: What is it and how do you do it?
Many people interested in couples therapy hesitate because they're not sure what to expect. That can be scary, but I'm here to allay your fears.If your relationship needs professional help, you can count on the Gottman Relationship Checkup to kickstart your work together as a couple and help you get the most out of relationship therapy.What … [Read more...] about The Gottman Relationship Checkup for Couples: How Healthy is Your Relationship?
As 2018 rapidly comes to an end, it's a good time to review the year that was.I'm always curious about what my readers find interesting, so I've collated the top 10 most popular blog posts that I wrote this year.This list is compiled based on the number of website visitors who clicked on these posts, in ascending order. So scroll down to … [Read more...] about My Top 10 Most Popular Relationship Posts of 2018
Believe it or not, online dating was once considered a strange and unusual thing. When I started working as a couples therapist back in the early 21st Century, I always asked my couples how they met. My couples would often be embarrassed to tell me they met online. It was like online dating was a dirty little secret that they didn’t want their … [Read more...] about 5 Survival Tips for Online Dating
Honeymoon long over? Hang in there. A new University of California, Berkeley, study shows those prickly disagreements that can mark the early and middle years of marriage mellow with age as conflicts give way to humour and acceptance.Researchers analysed videotaped conversations between 87 middle-aged and older husbands and wives who had … [Read more...] about STUDY: Ageing Married Couples Replace Bickering with Humour
If you find yourself single this holiday season, reluctant to do anything except stay home and indulge various vices, take heart: it’s a time of year like any other. It’s just been so co-opted by capitalism that we’re bombarded with holiday images and expectations from early November through the New Year.With media messages that the … [Read more...] about 6 Tips for Finding Love This Holiday Season
Hugging, while it's usually regarded as a simple and everyday act, has been found by scientists to radically alter one's outlook for the better and affect the way our brains work in the long term.According to a study from PLOS One, after social and/or relationship conflict, giving and receiving hugs with the other person will increase good … [Read more...] about The Surprising Science of Hugs
I recently spoke with Melanie Tait on the ABC Radio Nightlife program about open relationships. This was a fascinating discussion with some interesting callers on the talkback sharing their experiences.In this interview I answer the following questions:How common is it for couples to have an open relationship? How have relationships … [Read more...] about Is an Open Relationship Right for You? Listen to Clinton Power on ABC Radio
All couples experience conflict, but it doesn’t have to be a bad thing. The goal of a successful relationship is not to eliminate conflict, but to repair effectively after conflicts occur. This takes relationship skills—which can be learned!Let’s discuss some of what argumentative couples have in common. Why is relationship conflict so … [Read more...] about How to Fight Fair: The Pros and Cons of Conflict
No two people in a relationship are going to have the exact same sex drive, but when it becomes a chronic problem in how they interact, it might be time to seek help. The most common myths about desire In our culture, sexual education is spotty at best. Many of us get a lot of our ideas about sex from movies and pornography, and those aren’t … [Read more...] about Desire Discrepancy: The Real Reasons You’re Not Having More Sex in Your Relationship