All couples have disagreements and fights at one time or another. Conflicts happen in all relationships and that’s okay. It’s important to express your thoughts, feelings, and needs even if you’re unhappy. So, having conflict in your relationship is never the issue. What’s more important is how you manage the conflict and whether you repair … [Read more...] about How to Use a Time-out to De-escalate Conflict in Your Relationship
To understand how to build a casual relationship that fits your wants and needs, you first need to understand what a casual relationship is; the word casual can mean different things to different people. What is a casual relationship? A casual relationship is an emotional and physical relationship between two people that may include sex and might … [Read more...] about A Beginners Guide to Casual Relationships
How do you know when you should break up your relationship? It's a question that doesn't have an easy answer, yet it's something many of us with a history of relationships have grappled with at one time or another. Many people think that a relationship counsellor only helps couples stay together. But in my 16 years of working with … [Read more...] about How to Know When it’s Time to Break Up
Whoever said long-distance relationships aren't hard has undoubtedly never been in one. Long-distance relationships are becoming more common for many couples due to 'fly in, fly out' (FIFO) work, the massive increase in people travelling overseas, and the globalisation of today's world where living and working in another state or country is easier … [Read more...] about The Best Advice for Anyone in a Long-distance Relationship
Guest post by Amanda Woolveridge I often hear the word “intimacy” in my therapy room when talking to couples about their relationship. But what does it mean and how do we achieve it and maintain it in our significant relationships? It isn’t just the domain of our romantic relationships, it goes to the heart of our closest and most endearing … [Read more...] about Intimacy: What is it and how do you do it?
Many people interested in couples therapy hesitate because they're not sure what to expect. That can be scary, but I'm here to allay your fears. If your relationship needs professional help, you can count on the Gottman Relationship Checkup to kickstart your work together as a couple and help you get the most out of relationship … [Read more...] about The Gottman Relationship Checkup for Couples: How Healthy is Your Relationship?
As 2018 rapidly comes to an end, it's a good time to review the year that was. I'm always curious about what my readers find interesting, so I've collated the top 10 most popular blog posts that I wrote this year. This list is compiled based on the number of website visitors who clicked on these posts, in ascending order. So scroll … [Read more...] about My Top 10 Most Popular Relationship Posts of 2018
Believe it or not, online dating was once considered a strange and unusual thing. When I started working as a couples therapist back in the early 21st Century, I always asked my couples how they met. My couples would often be embarrassed to tell me they met online. It was like online dating was a dirty little secret that they didn’t want their … [Read more...] about 5 Survival Tips for Online Dating
Honeymoon long over? Hang in there. A new University of California, Berkeley, study shows those prickly disagreements that can mark the early and middle years of marriage mellow with age as conflicts give way to humour and acceptance. Researchers analysed videotaped conversations between 87 middle-aged and older husbands and wives who had … [Read more...] about STUDY: Ageing Married Couples Replace Bickering with Humour
If you find yourself single this holiday season, reluctant to do anything except stay home and indulge various vices, take heart: it’s a time of year like any other. It’s just been so co-opted by capitalism that we’re bombarded with holiday images and expectations from early November through the New Year. With media messages that the … [Read more...] about 6 Tips for Finding Love This Holiday Season