Can You Relate to Any
- We used to have great sexual chemistry but we've drifted apart and now we're in a sexless relationship.
- My partner and I seem to be sexually incompatible. Does this mean we shouldn’t be together?
- My partner is struggling with a sexual dysfunction and we’ve stopped having sex.
- We want to explore an open relationship. How can do this so we don’t hurt each other?
- I can’t stop watching porn. Do I have a pornography addiction?
- Every time we have sex it’s a disaster. What can we do?
- I am obsessed with sex. I’m worried I might have a sex addiction.
- We're in a polyamorous relationship but we're struggling with jealousy issues and need help.
- I’m in a straight relationship but I think my partner is gay, bisexual, or lesbian.
How Can I Help?
I can help you talk through your sexual issues in a safe space. I work with many different individual and couple sexual issues including:
- Sexual dysfunction – erectile difficulties, delayed or premature ejaculation, and painful intercourse (vaginismus).
- Negotiating an open or polyamorous relationship and helping you decide if it’s right for you.
- Out of control sexual behaviour (commonly called porn addiction or sex addiction in popular culture.)
- Sexless relationships – getting to the bottom of the issue.
- Couples who fight about sex – the type of sex and frequency.
- Mismatched libidos – when one partner wants sex more than the other.
- Couples who are in the kink community or want to understand their partner’s kinks or fetishes.
- High-risk behaviours such as exposing a partner to the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs), including HIV.
- Feeling your sexual impulses and urges are out of control.
- Couples where one partner is dealing with confusion about their sexual orientation or sexual identity.
What Results Can You Expect?
Through our couple sex therapy services you can have:
- Renewed sexual closeness, intimacy, and vitality in your relationship.
- Open, honest, and respectful communication about sexual issues.
- Less disagreements or conflict about sex.
- A satisfying sex life that leads to you feeling great about yourself and your relationship.
- A deeper understanding of your sexuality and your partner’s sexual needs.
- Less anxiety and stress about your sexual performance.
- New ideas and solutions for long-standing sexual problems.
Even if you’re in a relationship and your partner won’t come for couples sex therapy, you can still attend on your own and experience positive changes in your relationship.
My Couples Sex Therapy Approach?
I use best practices and a sex-positive approach when I work with individuals and couples with sexual issues. My work is based on the six principles of sexual health (Braun-Harvey, 2009), which are:
- Consent – I believe safe, consensual sex is a human right that leads to mutually positive sexual interactions.
- Honesty – I support you and your partner having open and honest communication about your sexuality and sexual desires.
- Nonexploitation – I believe mutually satisfying sexual experiences come from not taking unfair advantage of your partner.
- Shared values – I help you understand the meaning of sex for you and your partner and what values you do and don’t share.
- Protection from STIs/HIV and unwanted pregnancy – I support you in maintaining that your sexual interactions do not harm you or your partners, or lead to unwanted pregnancy.
- Pleasure – I believe mutually pleasurable sexual activity is an important part of sexual health that involves giving and receiving pleasure in a safe way.