Who I Work With

Can You Relate to Any of These Statements?

Singles

• l fear that I’ll be repeatedly hurt by love, so I avoid taking any risks or moving closer to anyone

• I’m single and feel lonely. I don’t think I’ll ever find a ‘good enough’ relationship

• I feel frustrated that I keep making the same relationship mistakes over and over again, but I don’t know how to stop

• I feel scared and distrustful whenever I get close to someone, so I pull away and keep my distance

• I think I’m better off single, alone, and lonely than feeling the pain of a bad relationship again

• I am terrified that I will never love someone or that no one will ever love me

• I feel so scarred by my previous relationship that I have decided that I don’t ‘do’ relationships

• I feel devastated that my partner has left me, and I don’t understand what happened and where I went wrong

• I just can’t let go of past relationship hurts, and I don’t let anyone get too close

Individuals in a relationship

• I’m miserable because I don’t know how to communicate so that my partner can hear me

• I’m ambivalent about my relationship and considering leaving my partner. I need to make a decision

• I’m constantly angry and picking a fight with my partner, and I don’t know how to stop

• I feel afraid because I think my partner is going to leave me

• I withhold love and sex from my partner to punish them for all the past hurts I’m carrying

• I’m feeling lost and alone in my relationship. Something has to change, but what?

• I’m sexually attracted to other people, and I’m scared I will act on these feelings and hurt my partner

• I’m afraid I am beginning to repeat the terrible relationship my parents had

• I’m so frightened to be alone that I smother my partner, and it’s driving him/her crazy

• I feel insecure, clingy, and jealous of my partner, and can’t trust him/her

• I can’t bear to be alone, yet I’m pushing my partner away

• I’m constantly cheating and lying to my partner, and I don’t understand why

Couples

• We are so sick of the pain of constant bickering and never-ending arguments about things that never get resolved

• We have ongoing anger or resentment towards each other that we can’t seem to manage

• Our sexual needs don’t get met, and we struggle to talk about sex

• We don’t know how to ‘fight fair’, so we are often blaming, criticising or attacking each other

• Our relationship is at a crossroads. There is no joy anymore

• We struggle to communicate about the smallest things and often end up feeling miserable after a huge fight

• We feel growing resentment and contempt which means we shut each other out for long periods

• We can’t stop fighting because one of us wants to have children/be married, and the other doesn’t

• We are struggling to decide whether to end this relationship or work on it

Couples in Positive Relationships That Want to Make it Better

• We have a good relationship and want to make it even better!

LGBTQIA+ Individuals and Couples

• There are many types of relationships, and in addition to heterosexual couples, I also work with gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender individuals, as well as same-sex couples.