It’s hard not to read a paper, watch the news or look at your portfolio without feeling depressed about the current economy. I have been wondering how the current economic climate is impacting relationships.
How are your relationships faring in this economic downturn? Of course, many individuals are suffering financially and it is inevitable that this will place stress on families and relationships.
A gift wrapped in dirty paper
I think this recession is a gift wrapped in dirty paper. You don’t have to have a relationship recession.
What I mean by that is that there are always opportunities in tough times, and the opportunity here is to come back to forming and maintaining loving, healthy and life affirming relationships. The great thing about relationships is they don’t cost anything!
At this time there are even more reasons to head out and connect with the people you care about.
You can create a relationship attitude of abundance even when the economy is in a downturn. Get creative and think about how you can create enriching and rewarding relationship experiences that bring you together with those you love for quality shared time.
Maybe ‘date night’ with your partner will start with dinner at home and then you go out for a glass of wine to a vibrant wine bar or cafe to soak up the atmosphere. Perhaps you have a coffee with your friend, instead of spending an afternoon shopping for clothes. For a small amount of money, you get to enjoy the wonderful company of your friend and catch up on all the news, without the stress of thinking how much is this long lunch costing me?
And have you ever been at a restaurant with a large group of friends when you only have an entree and drink mineral water, and then at the end of the evening you split the bill for everyone’s 3 courses and numerous bottles of wine? Yes, we’ve all been there and it hurts! Instead, have your friends over for dinner and each bring a plate of food and a bottle. It’s really about the company, and who can beat your own warm dining room, ambient music and no wait staff tapping their fingers and waiting for you to leave the restaurant!
Change your perspective and nurture your relationship
While all the news in the economy might be about scarcity, I want you to think of your relationships with an attitude of abundance. The challenge of this time is to focus on listening, sharing and connecting, so that you can create relationships that have greater meaning to you.
Think about how you can invest more in your relationships. Consider all the ways you can appreciate and enjoy the company of those you love and care for. Remember, when you invest in your relationships, the dividends are always high.
Do you need relationship help?
Since 2003, Clinton Power has helped thousands of couples and individuals as a counsellor and psychotherapist in private practice in Sydney and online in Australia. Clinton regularly comments in the media on issues of relationships and has appeared on Channel 7, The Sydney Morning Herald, and ABC Radio. Clinton’s eBook, 31 Days to Build a Better Relationship is available through his website or Amazon. Click here to take Clinton’s relationship checkup quiz to find out how well you know your partner.